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Separation and divorce can be challenging and upsetting for all involved, especially children. It is important to remember that although the relationship between the parents has ended, their role as parents will continue. Therefore, separating parents must ensure the children receive the support they need, and that consideration is given to their emotional and physical needs during this difficult time.
Once a couple decides to separate, there will be a big change to their parenting role. Parents may often find it difficult to separate their relationship feelings from their parenting feelings, and this clash can get in the way of allowing an ongoing relationship with the children. Often, many parents find it difficult to organise a routine for their children. In such cases, advice from Divorce Law Specialists can be invaluable.
Separation leads to many adjustments. Co-parents must have many conversations with each other and the children, which can be overwhelming, especially at the beginning of their separation journey.
The circumstances surrounding a separation often determine how easy or difficult parents will find communicating with each other. It may be beneficial to consider getting some early help and support to establish a successful way to communicate with one another. If parents can explore ways to agree, this will benefit the co-parenting relationship and the children.
The following may be useful ways of reaching an agreement with your co-parent:
Mediators are trained professionals who will remain completely neutral throughout the mediation process. The mediator will act as a guide in having discussions surrounding the issues you are both facing to try to reach an agreement. There is usually no set length to the mediation process.
Arbitration can be used as a direct alternative to court, where an arbitrator can be appointed to help to resolve a conflict. The arbitrator will decide the best course of action after a series of scheduled hearings. The timetable can be flexible, as you and your co-parent will decide it. A decision reached by an arbitrator is legally binding and can be a useful way for an agreement to be reached without going to court.
Suppose an agreement cannot be reached regarding arrangements for the children, and you have tried alternative avenues, such as mediation. You may consider applying to the family court for a child arrangements order in that case. The court, however, should be viewed as a last resort when it comes to arrangements for the children.
Separation is a traumatic time for you and your children. Your children may seem upset, angry or quieter than usual. It is important that a child feels heard so that you can be clear about what is going on rather than guessing. It tells the child that you are emotionally available to them, and they feel like they matter when they are listened to.
Parents often find it difficult to decipher when bringing the child’s voice into decision-making is appropriate.
When making decisions, a traffic light system may be helpful:
Your child must have a voice in decision-making, especially in the green and amber areas. A child needs to feel as though they are heard when their parents are separating.
Child-inclusive mediation may be a useful way, if appropriate, to ensure that your child’s voice is heard in a separation.
It involves a family mediator trained as a child consultant talking with the child as part of the mediation process. This can be a good way of understanding your child’s views, needs and wishes throughout the process of making arrangements for their care following separation.
The family team at Myerson are all members of Resolution. We are committed to promoting a constructive approach to family issues that consider the whole family's needs.
If you need advice on separating with children, or you have any other queries, please contact our Divorce Law team today on: